Who will be at your table? Can I make a suggestion? What the hell I will anyways, this is the time of the year we do not want people we do not love at our table. And if you do not want to go to your mother in-law’s crib, don’t. if you don’t want your aunt from Pensacola by way of York who always has something to say about your turkey, your salad or your personality filled children, do not have her there. Maybe send a card but you should not have someone to whom you have not spoken all year, who makes you nervous, enraged or anxious at your dinner table. Or in your home. Because our homes are scared spaces and the holidays are meant to be with your nearest and dearest who mean you well. So plan that guest list and be cut throat with you.
I have a general rule, if I have not had a conversation with you all year, and I mean a regular conversation say weekly, and texted you regularly in the six months to Christmas, I am not even sending a card because chances are I will not know your address. So adopt the rule at your will babe.